For the last few months, I have been baffled by something that will probably seem very trivial, but I’m going to tell you anyway.

We talk so much about relationships on this site, that I have been forced to ask the simple question: how do we know if we are in one?  Now, it may not seem that big of a deal to you, but let us  consider the possibilities:  Read more...

say you love me…or your hate me.

say you like me…do you want to date me?

say it’s over–but it never began…

say its over–just tell me its the end?!

say we’re friends…or enemies

say we’re lovers…are you that into me?

say we’ll never…be anything

just say something…because i can’t let it be

in every relationship, we each bring baggage. our past relationships, our past experiences, and our past in general, affect how we deal with our romantic reality (you like that term, don’t you?).

the biggest issue in most of our relationships, is not the things that she has said (we’ll deal with the bois later), but the things that she has not said–but that you have probably noticed.  Read more...

everyone reading this has been through the following scenario(or have you?):

you like him/her…you wonder if he/she likes you…you assume that he/she should know…you grow disinterested because he/she never showed signs of “like” (and you are absolutely positive that you did everything necessary)…you eventually find out that the feeling was mutual.

confusion sets in…

or has this only happened to a couple of people and is the exception, not the rule? Well, allow us to  investigate, beginning with a classic “case” of like gone wrong…  Read more...

Sometimes I feel as if Sex and the City is a dramatic exaggeration of my life…

I recall the episode in which Carrie was planning to celebrate her birthday with a nice dinner surrounded by friends…

Yet she was the only one at the table… stood up, by everyone in her life.

This was her 35th birthday celebration I believe… she was not excited about celebrating, and everything surrounding her day seemed to go wrong.  Read more...

a video still from "i invented sex"

as amusing (yes amusing) as trey songz new video for “i invented sex,” is, i am left wondering what is he really thinking as he makes that claim that he will love you so good, that you will think he invented sex.  the song then asks, “who’s coming home with me?”

really? is that all?

what about being so good to you that you will think he invented commitment? love? intimacy?  Read more...

…and he’s married.

if i have heard it once, i have heard it ten times, “i only attract married men, and i don’t know why.”

well, at the risk of bursting your bubble, i am going to tell you what might be the problem– on both accounts.   Read more...

“If only he’d realize just how great we would be together,” I can hear her saying the words, can’t you?

Hasn’t every woman said these words?

Haven’t we all met a guy that brought so much to the table–or so we thought. He’s got the good looks, the great job, and of course, a dash of ambition. However, for all his pros, he has one enormous con: he does not want you.  Read more...

ok…i tricked you, there is no method you can use to manipulate, prod, or cajole the truth out of someone; but i will examine why we don’t tell the truth, and how much better things would be if we did.

in any relationship, trust is an issue.  either you do not trust, you trust too much, or you are seeking trust–whichever the case, the issue is trust  Read more...

…but you won’t let me.

today, i found myself in a blind rage–outraged at the fact that i don’t understand what is going on with us; outraged that i’ve let my heart be taken over by someone who never even interviewed for the job; outraged at the fact that i’m outraged…

…you know the drill.

when one is outraged, you begin to ramble and in the ramble, i made one of the most profound statements regarding this situation:  Read more...