Pause: Let me just say that this is not about every sistah, or about every relationship. However, Everything said here has happened, even if it did not happen to you, and if it has happened to you (or you made it happen), my prayer is that you have evolved from it.
*originally posted on Jan 4, 2010*
In the Beginning…
I did not know what to write. Would this article be a confession of the love I had given to the wrong black men? Or would it be “Calling It Out” to all the sistahs who want to love a black man? Hmmmm…I finally came to a compromise. I will call it out, and “it” being “me.”
dating while black
surely no one living in the continental united states is unaware of a phenomenon where african-american males (and sometimes females) are stopped in their daily activities by law enforcement officers for no apparent reason. because of the numerous occurrences of such behavior, the term, “driving while black,” was created.
i wonder if the term applies elsewhere…
then comes marriage…
Editors’ Note: This story originally appeared in the February 2008 issue of Points Magazine–a special edition publication celebrating African-American Heritage Month (February) and Black Music Month (June). The entire publication may be viewed by clicking the link at the conclusion of this entry.
Why Did I Get Married?
By Andrea Jackson Barefield
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