Our question comes from Chad Dennis Forsgren (@CimmiCSYMSOfficial)…

He a special lady in his life, and it seems there have been some outside influences getting in the way.

“Have I been the product of a group game or is there any truth in the connection between her and I.”

kelic’s answer:

Without knowing the two of you personally it is impossible to answer “yes” or “no” in regards to the two of you sharing a “real” connection.  However, I would advise you to be transparent…let her know exactly how you feel about her, letting your intentions be known.  If you are upfront and honest with her, that does not leave room for guessing…making it harder for someone on the outside to step in between the two of you.  If the other people involved are people that she trusts and they are speaking ill of you, you may have to work overtime to gain or rebuild her trust…

But let’s not jump the gun…you are not sure what the problem is or if there is a problem at all. I suggest telling her how you feel, and asking her to share her thoughts.  But…you have to be willing to accept a response that you did not want to hear.

I wish you well.

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@ShaneAwesome wants to know…

“What do you think about those men that throw their cash around to attract women… and the women who go for that?”

kelic’s answer:

Triflin’ and even more triflin’!  I am all for the notion of allowing a man to treat me…but I am not impressed by a man throwing dollars at me…I am not for sale.  I also would have a hard time with it because if you pay for me, you think you own me…thus thinking you control me.

Men who use money to get women are typically insecure…feel that’s all they have to offer…and the women that go for it typically lack substance.

msgoodigoodi says:

I think that anyone that makes money the foundation for a relationship is setting themselves up for failure.  After all, what happens if the time comes, when we don’t have a dime to our name?  If it’s all about the money, then it’s never going to be about love.

It can’t be.

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So, I, Ms.GoodiGoodi, have the privilege of taking on the interrogation skills of our “twiend” (that’s a Twitter friend, for the technologically challenged), @abrich87.

Now, the truth is, that he has a lot of questions for us, so below is just a sampling of answers for him.

• I only interact with 2 lovely ladies from this site and im under the impression there are others….Would everyone including those that i speak with introduce themselves and tell a little bout themselves.

Actually there are only 2 ladies.

• What motivates you to write and what do you get from it?

What motivates me is the fact that without strong relationships, everything that is important to me will eventually cease to exist.  However, in order to have strong relationships, we have to start being real grown-ups and being clear, honest and sincere about who we are, and what we want.

For me writing is therapy…I’m motivated by hopes, dreams…as well as hurts and losses.  I’m motivated to write when things are going well…as well as when things are going wrong. I draw inspiration from life…my life as well as the lives of those around me…

• What are your muses? is it broken hearts, past relationships, no good niggas…jive ass brothers…..triflin females etc???

Everything.  Sometimes its not even our personal experiences, but also things that we hear about or things that we see in the news.

• Why do boissuq???

Why not? Its about time that there is a place for “bois and gyrls” to come and be transparent.  So many times we have feelings that never get expressed, and they hurt, so why not come on boissuq.com and let loose, and know that the truth of the matter is that while we say “boys suck,” we also acknowledge that “girls suck,” too.

• Do all of you know each other personally or all yall related???

Yes. We’ve known each other for more than 15 years; we met our Freshmen year at The University of Texas at Austin

• Who’s idea was it to start the site?

Both of ours…it’s a collabo, dude.

• Honestly, what do you get from males responses including my own warped sense of thinking?

I personally have only had ONE guy tell me that the site was “hatin’” but most men—at least that I have encountered—have nothing but great things to say, and that even if they were put off by the name at first, they’ve opened up their minds and gave the site a chance.

The guys leave more comments than the gyrls.

Interesting question…I can’t speak for msgoodigoodi, but at first, what I envisioned was a place for ladies to come relax, relate, release…yet it seems that our most vocal readers are male…I’m actually surprised by this giving the theme of the ‘zine…I enjoy reading the male take on our thoughts and experiences…we want to open up dialog…get to the bottom of things…because men are not from Mars and women are not from Venus…we’re all from earth, and there are really no excuses as to why we can’t, don’t, or won’t communicate more effectively.

• Are all you in a relationship or are you all single?

I plead the 5^th…K?

I’m single says the other lady…

• I don’t have a question but I Just don’t like even numbers…do yall have that OCD thing too?

I have the numerical OCD thing…K has other forms of OCD.

It’s true…it’s kelic speaking…I have the type of OCD that causes me to frequently shower, wash my hands…leave and reenter my home several times before driving off because I want to make sure the iron is not on…

• Since this site is about men and why we do etc….lets switch the tone…tell me the things you LOVE about men, what defines a good man, a perfect gentleman…ur knight in shining armor? What is a good man?

We both love a man that is sincere.  The problems come when they figure out that we’re not just “dimes,” “arm candy,” “eye candy,” or the “background to their foreground.”  Yes, we are strong women that are ready to stand beside…yes beside the right man (rib to rib, so to speak)…and that should be okay.

Unfortunately, many men haven’t been taught the true value of a woman, and there in lies the problem: Here I am, fully-equipped for you, but you aren’t half-way prepared for me…He’s still looking for a trophy and I’m his reward. J

im done *ciao*

Ciao! *winks*

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