I was having a conversation with a friend…

How does one move on from the love of their life leaving them to be with someone of the same sex?

I do not know what to tell you; because this is not something that I have been through…apparently she was not the love of your life if she left you to be with another woman.

Sometimes I feel like I ain’t s* because of it though…

If this how you perceive yourself, this is how others will perceive you…and we all know that perception is reality.

We get back what we put out into the universe.  If you let on that you do not feel worthy of a woman’s attention…affection…then she will not give herself to you.

We cannot let our failed relationships define who we are. It is okay to temporarily morn our losses, but at some point we must move beyond our past, progressively into the future.

This is my friends problems…he is stuck in time…he has stopped living his life. He has yet to let go of what was…missing out on what could be.  He has allowed a woman to shatter his confidence, and now he is afraid to get close to another woman because he does not feel worthy…afraid that he is not worthy of her love…afraid that she too will leave him.

Others can only do to us what we allow…can only control our lives if we if we give them the remote…

Hopefully he will read this and realize there is life after her…there is love after her…allowing himself to let go of the hurt and move on…allowing himself to feel happiness without her. Confidence is important…no need to be arrogant, but we women want to know that we have a man that is secure in who he is. Insecurity breeds weakness, and if you let on that you are weak, a gyrl that suqs will prey on you…manipulating your mind for her benefit.

So for all of us who have handed over control of our lives, allowing someone else to dictate who we are and what we have become…

It is time to take back the remote and move onto the next channel.

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