I have heard bois say “No more Mister Nice Guy” and “I’m tired of being too nice.”
Well fellas, I have a newsflash! We women are so over the “Nice guys finish last” and “They don’t want a nice guy” talk!
And will someone please clarify how one can be “too nice?”
Now I have referred to aforementioned as bois for a couple of reasons:
Ladies I will speak for us in general (feel free to let me know if you differ) when I say…
We want a strong man, but strong does not equate mean. You must have a backbone, yet this does not mean I want you to control me. It is quite alright to tell me “no” sometimes…actually it’s what I expect. I want to know that you will not allow me or anyone else to walk all over you, that you have the ability to stand up for your self (and me) if need be. I have a problem with a “Yes Man”. If he is always trying to butter me up, always trying to give me honey, saying what he thinks I want to hear, showering compliments, but can never offer a positive critique…I don’t trust “it”…”it” being him, “it” being the relationship.
If you agree with one-hundred percent of everything I say and/or do, I would begin to think that it is your representative I am dealing with. I am looking for a partner, not a diplomat.
The interesting thing is, most men that would label themselves as “Too Nice” are typically the arrogant *bleeps*! I have yet to hear a genuinely nice guy refer to himself as “too nice of a guy”… Many times “Mr. Nice Guy” feels that he has been wronged, when he is actually the one in the wrong.
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