Being alone does not equate to loneliness…

This has become my creed if you will.

I feel it is important to spend some time getting to know me better…my needs, my wants, what makes me happy…what I bring to the table.

I feel that if I cannot spend time me, it will be hypocritical to expect someone else to want to be in my company.

After a break up you not to be ready to jump right back into the game…sometimes is necessary to become reacquainted with ones self.

Maybe you have not experienced a recent breakup, yet you are struggling with/or just learning how to embrace your singleness.

How do you begin to embrace your singleness…the first step is to date yourself.

What?  Did she just tell me to date myself?  Yes I did!

Sometimes we need to just date ourselves.  Spend that quality “me” time doing things that we enjoy, reflecting upon our past, present, and future.

Ways to date yourself:

1. Go out for a night on the town.  Get dressed up and treat yourself to a nice dinner.  Proudly and confidently walk in and request a table for one!  Okay, not ready for this quite yet, eat your meal at the bar…no one is every truly alone at the bar.
2. Pamper yourself.  Treat yourself to a spa day…manicures, pedicures, massages, facials.  Work on the physical while becoming in tune with the mental.
3. If you are more of a homebody, have dinner and a movie night.  Cook your favorite meal and rent yourself a movie.  Wait, do we still rent movies? Okay, I digress…

It does not matter what you do, just do something.  Whatever it is you enjoy, take the time to yourself to celebrate and enjoy life.  I think you will find if you spend more time appreciating and respecting what you do have, being single would no longer feel so negative.

I think it is time you court yourself… what is it you are afraid of?  Being alone with your thoughts?  Your feelings?

They are still there in a room of crowded people…just suppressed back into the back of your mind ready to surface at any time, even if you may not be ready to handle them…

They will still be there ready to sabotage a new relationship if you do not sort them out and make sense of them…

So I say embrace your single hood, you will be just that much better once you find that special someone…or once he finds you.

And…

Gentlemen, this applies to you too.

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