Excuse me gentlemen, but I have to take a minute to address my ladies…my fellow single ladies that is.  A friend of mine is always saying that it’s important that we “embrace your singleness” and I can completely relate to her point of view.  Find purpose in your life, that way you will be ready to contribute to a partnership.  I always say that I am looking for a man to compliment, not complete me.  I know who I am, I have proven that I can stand strong, and over the years I have proven I am much stronger than I ever expected.  I had two parents in my home, yet I watched my mother hold things down when my dad was going through.  I watched the strength of my grandmother…my aunts.  I have had such good examples that I could not help but to realize the strength within myself…but it is something about hearing a man give pearls of wisdom such as this that does not sit well with me…

@ RevRunWisdom Single ladies::: Sometimes you have to stand alone just to prove you can still stand! true story

Of course I realized that Rev Run  meant no harm, and his intent was to encourage and uplift.  However,  I took his words as single equates to weak.   As women, sometimes knowing and proving we can stand alone…and tall for that matter, is the problem.  Gone is the notion of “I can do bad my myself”, yet we develop the belief of “I’m doing fine all by myself”…making it harder to allow him into our life.  We strong single women like to be in control (its our way of life), we have had no choice due to our circumstances, and in order to let him in, we must turn over some of our control…control of our heart that is.

So to all my singles ladies, be encouraged this V-day!  You do not have to embrace your singleness, but do embrace your strength.   This February 14th, be your own Valentine and treat yourself…you deserve it!

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