After about “x” months, or even weeks of dating, many women experience an interesting phenomenon when it comes to their mate.  Now that they have removed the rose-colored glasses that keep them through the honeymoon phases of this budding relationship, it seems that there is a little problem.

He has nothing going for him…okay, let’s be fair, he has nothing that you value going for him.

No job.

No ambition.  Read more...

Now what exactly does this mean?

 Legally, it is a tort action brought against a third party alleged to be responsible (by a deserted spouse) against a third party alleged to be responsible for the failure of the marriage. (via Wikipedia)

 If your spouse does not physically leave you, is it still alienation of affection? 

 Well not legally… but I think we all know that once a party had emotionally checked out… they may have well physically deserted you.  Read more...

So last week I took to facebook and posted the following status…

Just in case I’ve never said this before… bois suq!

 This resulted in the following thread of comments…

Friend 1:   After my experience over the last few weeks…I have to agree!!!

Friend 2:  I agree!

Friend 3:  Some do, not all

 Me:  all bois suq… men on the other hand…  Read more...

Woman Seeking Man, but not any ol’ man will do. Unless you fit the following criteria please do not respond…

You must be…

Intelligent, Honest, Trustworthy, Passionate, Compassionate, Ambitious, Determined, Loving, Sharing , Humorous, Creative, Stylish, Respectful (of self and others), Faithful…Oh…and you must love Football!  Read more...

say you love me…or your hate me.

say you like me…do you want to date me?

say it’s over–but it never began…

say its over–just tell me its the end?!

say we’re friends…or enemies

say we’re lovers…are you that into me?

say we’ll never…be anything

just say something…because i can’t let it be

i could end this article with one sentence:

“when you don’t want me…it’s your loss.”

but i won’t…

what i will do is hopefully help us all move on to something better and make way for what is really meant  for us…i will use three sentences.  Read more...

How will I know if he really loves me…

~ Whitney Houston

I do not know about you, but I am not particularly fond of playing the guessing game.  There is nothing worse than having strong feelings for someone, and not knowing if he feels the same.  Yes, I could always ask, but then he  may feel backed into a corner, and obligated to give the answer he feels I need to hear…not necessarily the truth.  Not to mention, I feel that actions speak louder than words, and for me it’s usually about the little things.  Read more...

I cannot go back, all I can do is go forward
There are so many things I want to erase, so many words I need to say
Where do I begin?
How do I begin?
I have had a glimpse of life with out you, and it is a reality that I do not want
What exactly does this mean, I do not know
I do know, that you are important to me, and I want you in my life
Sometimes you get use to someone, something
You get in a routine, and you just assume that things will always remain
I guess that was my mistake
Things are different. Things have changed. Things might not ever be the same.
I hope not…
I hope for a future with you
I hope to share my dreams and aspirations with you
I hope that you can look pass my faults and see my needs
See that I need you
Sometimes I get a bit beside myself
I lose control of my senses and let my emotions take control
For that, I apologize…
It is unfair for me to expect you to think or feel the way that I do
Is it wrong of me to ask you to let me in?
Let me in on what you are feeling…
Allow me to share those feelings, be it good or bad
I am up for the challenge
I know the road ahead will not always be easy
What is easy is not always what is best
Some things have changed, but one thing still remains
I feel the same way for you today, as I did yesterday
My first thought when I wake up is still you
My last thought before I go to bed is still you
Sometimes I hold back, and not show exactly how I feel
I have worked so long to protect my feelings
The walls we build around us are so much easier to put up than they are to tear down
Sometimes it is hard for me to show you exactly how I feel
Sometimes I have a hard time articulating my thoughts
It seems the more I say, the more cloudy the sky becomes
I can see the sun rising on the horizon, and I know that great things are to come
I have allowed myself to breathe, and now I have clarity
It is clear what I want…
I want your arms to hold me.
I want your lips to kiss me.
I want your smile to welcome me.
I want your voice to whisper to me.
I want…
You.

Over and Over in My mind
I hear these lines…
Silly of me, to think that I
Would ever have you for my guy…Yeah…silly of me…
To believe you, when you said, you liked me
I once said that I did not think I measured up to your standards
Your response…
How could you NOT know you are the highest measure?
Yeah, now I know you were feeding me a line
But see…to me…
That was real, it was my reality
Because for me, you set the bar
Funny how quickly things can change
The same man that gave me hugs and kisses, told me he missed me
Know disregards my presence, ignores my questions, treats me with disrespect
The same man who played the role…you know…
“I think I might get hurt because I will end up liking you  more…”
Yeah, well…guess who ended up hurt.
I stopped looking once I found you…
Yet you continuously looked past me
I said I would not cry, but it’s easier said than done…
Because although you’ve forgotten me, you’re still with me
You’re in my thoughts, and you haunt my dreams
But as much as I am hurting right now, I have to press on
Time does not stand still, life moves on…regardless of what’s going on.
I think to myself…
Weeping only endures for the night…
For now, I’m rejected
But it was to be expected
See I’m Loving, Giving
And some just can’t handle it…
They are scared to be loved
Don’t know what’s it’s like to be loved
And I have just accepted
That with these types…
I will always be rejected.  Read more...

dedicated to: ajb…thanks for the inspiration.

how many times have you done it? don’t get nasty…

how many time have you done it?  you know, you meet him/her…you like him/her, and the next thing you know, you start “expecting” things.  the truth is that you starting, “testing” things.  Read more...