For the longest time, I was engaged in a non-existent, imaginary, but real relationship.  What the *ell is that, I am sure that you ask.  Well, that is a relationship that only exist when it benefits one of the parties involved (and that never meant me).  But, because I cared so much and was so connected to this person (please note the sarcasm), I would drop whatever I was doing to make his world brighter.  Read more...

Isn’t this how it always starts?  So hopeful, so excited about what could be between the two of us.  But, too often,  we find ourselves caught up in the potential, rather than observing and acting on the reality that is before us.

Maybe it is just me.  Read more...

For the last few months, I have been baffled by something that will probably seem very trivial, but I’m going to tell you anyway.

We talk so much about relationships on this site, that I have been forced to ask the simple question: how do we know if we are in one?  Now, it may not seem that big of a deal to you, but let us  consider the possibilities:  Read more...

After about “x” months, or even weeks of dating, many women experience an interesting phenomenon when it comes to their mate.  Now that they have removed the rose-colored glasses that keep them through the honeymoon phases of this budding relationship, it seems that there is a little problem.

He has nothing going for him…okay, let’s be fair, he has nothing that you value going for him.

No job.

No ambition.  Read more...

it used to be so hard to think about my life without you.  i even shed a tear at the thought…but then one day…you just didn’t matter anymore. don’t you remember how much you loved him/her, and how you always thought that it would be this way.  our kisses were phenomenal, when we touched it was magical, when we laughed–it hurt.  Read more...